I see this one gone off course based on a couple casual comments.
I don’t believe you can look at interracial couples and make assumptions that either the man or woman choose to ignore their own or any other race. People come together in different circumstances and I don’t think yuh generalize and make judgments about why people come together.
With that being said…
really? where all that coming from exactly? you really can't be so stupid so I advise you actually go and re-read everything.
In any case, the question that JDB posed to spideybuff still stands (whether or not there is in an individual or collective slight against black women): how is the situation as depicted in spideybuff's original comment not constitute a slight against the sisters? feel free to actually answer the question. My own suspicion is that there is some disagreement to the meaning of the word 'slight'.
for NUFF to ask which committee telling these men to make any decision is really just a paraphrasing of the question being debated.
To answer JDB's question... a preference is just that, a preference. I already answered the question, which smart as you are, you clearly didn't recognize. If a black footballer chooses to date a woman who isn't black then that's just a reflection of what his choice is, and not in itself necessary manifestation of some slight against black women. Unless one is privy as to his choice in deliberating which race to date... assuming he actually sat down and said to himself "Self, should I date a black woman or a non-black woman?" then one has no basis for saying that that choice represents a slight.
Hopefully that logic's not too stupid for you to follow.
Daryn is right in that I was referring to Spidey’s explanation of the situation. It is difficult to state that, in a world of “different options”, it follows that sisters would rarely be first choice, and then say that it is not a slight against them.
Daryn probably has it right too in saying that people are using different interpretations of “slight”. Now if you disagree with that use of the word "slight" then that's fine, no need for a semantic discussion. Saying that an individual has a strong or perhaps exclusive preference for one type of person is IMO a slight against those who don’t fit that bill.
And there is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with that. What yuh check for is what yuh check for. Most people have broad, generic prejudices when it comes to what we look for in a mate. As a rule, I never checked for chicks who smoke. A very superficial distinction and I am sure it had real cool chicks out there who liked to take a puff but I usually wouldn’t be bothered. That is a definite slight against smokers. Likewise people will rank whole groups of potentially viable mates differently based on a first-pass assessment of race, ethnicity, age, height, age, finances etc. Harsh but true, but the good thing is it have more than enough people out there for everybody.
Now what people might feel bad to say for fear of mashing somebody corn is that there are black guys out there who date exclusively out of their race and it frets sisters to no end. Unfortunately guys who simply cater to all types get painted with the same brush. As a result, among some black women, there is the feeling of losing the “good ones”.
Obviously I can’t empathize with them because it is a unique situation for black women but what I try to convey is that if the person is not into your type at all they could never be the right person for you and you are not really “losing” anything.
