Let me see if I could offer meh 2 cents. Ah using monopoly money eh, so yuh might have to add to it to buy a latte by Starbucks...
Money is a huge concern that can break a relationship. It breaks up countries, companies and communities. I've seen sons put fathers in court and mothers put daughters in court over it so marriages are fair game to this monster.
But we've made a committement to each other. I am at my most vulnerable with you. You see me first thing in the morning with my head a mess, pregnant, sick, on my death bed. If I cannot trust you with money then why am I with you?
Back home, traditionally, women didn't work outside the home and had no income to guard. Men brought in the money and the woman took it to tend to the home, even run a sou sou, and saved. Today, with the emancipation, we're hunter gatherers too.
Some women, like the example Coco gave, hand over the money and stop paying attention. Nope Nope...don't do that. Be aware of the finances for obvious reasons. Money corrupts even the best intentions and in this day and age, we ALL have to pay attention to where the money goes. We can get fleeced by almost everyone from the phone company to the man/woman you call spouse.
Cana, the man is in your bed, wears your ring, fathers your children and yet you cannot trust a joint account? Your trust has limits.
Sadly, you have reason to distrust, polls tell you that it may be wise to and the relationships around you bear out that unfortunate reality. But there are exceptions to the rule and if you go into a relationship with that mistrust, you're setting yourself up. No, I'm not suggesting you close your eyes and pretend all is well. Pay attention during the courtship and early days of marriage, let him earn that trust. It can take years. But writing these rules in stone leaves you inflexible. Inflexible people do not grow.
We've spoken about men who do this and that but we don't seem to talk about women who do this and that. There are some crazy women out there too. Who have horned, cheated, stolen, lied, been horrible mothers, daughters and wives.
Gender lines are fuzzier now, the traditional jobs and responsibilities are more fluid. Some women earn more or handle the finances, some men stay at home.
As ENT said, things change, people change. Which of you is the same person you were as a teen?
Some people, once they get married feel they can let themselves go, stop looking, dressing, being attractive. Why? I would think it is the other way around. I try to take care of myself for me. I didn't go out in the road looking tattered before, why now? Because of a ring? oh please...
