this thing 1/2 hr long and I was trying to listen while reading a paper.
the thng crash about 23mins in so I can't talk about after that. one of the last things the dude say b4 it crash though was important - "they (his parents) are more concerned about what the community will think (having their son married to somebody Black, or maybe even different religion or culture)".
for me this kind of sum up what was the scene with the 1st dude. even though he didn't say it you can tell he was somewhat concerned about that too. When I add that to my own friendship of my really good parder from India...really really liberal thinker who was frustrated no hell because his parents were going to pick his wife for him (and he knew that there was nothing he could do about it even though they live on the other side of the planet). I have to say that this is something that is IMPORTANT to a lot of people in teh Indian culture - social status, perception of the community etc. I dunno, I not from that culture so I could not give a a erason for why it is so important for your family to pick and approve of who you marry in that culture.
In my experience, that is not what is important for me. For me the 1st question is - what is the main characteristic I want to have in a wife? - someone who I am going to share all my earthly possesions with, someone whose life I am going to be so intertwined with (sharing duties of managing children, housework...I mean my whole life wrapped around), someone who will not only get in the way of me doing what is right, but actually help me and push me far forward. Someone on the most basic level whose soul mine is merging with. what is the most important characteristic of this person?
one man might say the most important thing is that that woman has to have the same color skin as me - that is the most important. One man might say she has to have the exact same height as me. or the same shoe size. or that that woman will not be a cause of unhappiness for my family (due to their own personal hang ups or not).
maybe I off topic, cuz the topic is
dating Black...cuz then you have a bunch of people who really trying to maximize the sex and minimize the expenditure for sex...but then again that could be the most important thing.